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HK ([personal profile] hkellick) wrote2005-05-10 12:07 pm

Was I right or wrong?

[livejournal.com profile] indigoskynet's last post reminded me of an incident from Sunday. And I want to ask someone else's opinion.

Kristen and I were at the Laurel Mall on Sunday. Kristen found a summer dress she liked and she wanted my opinion.
We head into the store, which is relatively quiet, Kristen grabs the dress and goes into the dressing room.
Now.. like many stores, the dressing room was a small hallway with four or five "cubicles" each "cut off" with a curtain of some sort.
Kristen motioned me into the dressing room to see in the full length mirror with her.

At the time she did so, the dressing area was empty except for her, and the store wasn't particularly busy.

I go into the dressing room, look at Kristen's dress (which got a big thumbs up from me) and gave her a squeeze and a kiss. As I finish the kiss, some tall lady comes in and says "Excuse me. Men aren't allowed in the dressing room." and then slides by.

I apologize quickly and leave the area, embarassed, but my embarassment quickly turns into anger because I felt that she was being rude. I wasn't doing anything wrong. Wasn't looking through the curtains for naked ladies or some such. I was in one of the "cubicles" with my girlfriend, at her request.

It may be helpful to note that, based on the expressions of the girl at the counter as we left, we suspect that this was a customer and not someone who worked there.

So, I ask you, my livejournal users. Who was more wrong?

[Poll #491178]

[identity profile] peachtess.livejournal.com 2005-05-10 08:51 pm (UTC)(link)
Didn't pick one because its a matter of situration. For me personally if the dressing room has curtains instead of a door then I don't like men back there because those curtains never seem to close properly and always leave slits. I don't know the guys so I don't know if they are trustworthy or not. If it has doors then no problem. I usually have my husband stand near the dressing room so I can pop out really quick to ask him about something without actually inviting him in.

Now that said no one was in the dressing room area, doors or curtains aside, so you had every right to be in there. However the lady also had every right to ask you to leave if she didn't feel comfortable with you there.
I don't know what her tone was but if it was rude or angry she was wrong to use the tone.

[identity profile] lite.livejournal.com 2005-05-10 09:01 pm (UTC)(link)
It was a rude tone.
That's the part I couldn't convey in my post. I don't remember the exact words, but when I say "Excuse me." It wasn't a quiet "Hi, sorry to bother you, but.." it was more of a belligerant "Excuse ME"
To help you visualize, she was African American and she used the stereotypical african american woman tone. You know the one.
Sadly, those stereotypes live and breathe down here :p
Many of them are my neighbors :p