Maybe, even though I've been dating lite for almost two years, this is a surprise to him, but this is what I believe:
If someone's truly upset over something, yes, sympathy is certainly the right way to go.
If someone's being a drama queen/king, and too wrapped up in themselves to realize it, sometimes they need a good kick to snap out of it.
He can claim I'm unsympathetic and unsupportive in his LJ all he wants, but the truth is, I'm not. I'm another human being, doing my best, but when every time he's down, there's a threat of "you're unsupportive and I'm fighting the urge to break up with you again" (which there was, just not in this particular forum), there's a point where my choices are as follows:
1) Be a doormat. 2) Wait it out, which may include distancing myself. 3) Trying to nip it in the bud.
Option 1 sucks for me. Option 2 sucks for lite, if not both of us, since lite usually takes that as "See? You hate me, we're not going to make it." Option 3 is what's left when I can't actually be physically there to make him talk to me.
I asked you, earlier today, to come over so WE COULD TALK, before all this drama.
You can claim you're being sympathetic and supportive. That's bully for you.
Kristen, you should understand. It wasn't all that long ago YOU broke and once we talked I *WAS* sympathetic and supportive. I wasn't perfect and there were times when my support wasn't helpful and I'll admit that, but I was THERE. I was there this weekend when you were exhausted and instead of giving you a boot to the head and telling you to stop whining, I gave you understanding and sympathy.
Frankly, Kristen, your excuse is more holey than the vatican.
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If someone's truly upset over something, yes, sympathy is certainly the right way to go.
If someone's being a drama queen/king, and too wrapped up in themselves to realize it, sometimes they need a good kick to snap out of it.
He can claim I'm unsympathetic and unsupportive in his LJ all he wants, but the truth is, I'm not. I'm another human being, doing my best, but when every time he's down, there's a threat of "you're unsupportive and I'm fighting the urge to break up with you again" (which there was, just not in this particular forum), there's a point where my choices are as follows:
1) Be a doormat.
2) Wait it out, which may include distancing myself.
3) Trying to nip it in the bud.
Option 1 sucks for me. Option 2 sucks for
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I asked you, earlier today, to come over so WE COULD TALK, before all this drama.
You can claim you're being sympathetic and supportive. That's bully for you.
Kristen, you should understand. It wasn't all that long ago YOU broke and once we talked I *WAS* sympathetic and supportive. I wasn't perfect and there were times when my support wasn't helpful and I'll admit that, but I was THERE. I was there this weekend when you were exhausted and instead of giving you a boot to the head and telling you to stop whining, I gave you understanding and sympathy.
Frankly, Kristen, your excuse is more holey than the vatican.