Random thoughts and such
Feb. 24th, 2002 04:24 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
hkellickFirst off, I went to go see "The Mothman Prophecies" last night. CREEPY CREEPY movie. Not bad, just creepy! All in all, it was an alright movie. Certainly not a new favorite, but it was okee. Just be ready to be scared a bit, especially if ghosts scare you.
In just under a week, I'll be with![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
kareila, alierak, trillain, dawnstar, kolys, phinnia and tallin (assuming all goes well.) at the Galleria Mall, having lunch and having a good time. I'm really quite excited about it. All these people I haven't seen (and some favorite I have). More excited about the prospects of lunch with all these peoples then the actual concert (which I am looking forward to, but Indigo Girls isn't one of my favoite bands (not like the excitement I'd feel of going to see BnL or TMBG or Cake or something)
Still, I'm excited. It'll be cool to meet peoples.
Had a big fight with my littlest brother last night. Still a little bothered about it. It started out over typical things.. accusations that I'm not holding up my end of the household chores, but he's not holding up his end of the household chores (of course, they're getting done anwyays, so chances are.. we both are, even if it's late at times.), but it evolved into how I don't treat him like a grown up (which I can't say I fully understand his arguments about.)
As I understand it, here is one of the underlying problems. I am 8 years older than Josh.. I have a, in general, better relationship with my mom. We bicker alot, but we get on pretty well. On the other hand, Josh doesn't really relate to my mom in the same ways and ends up getting yelled at alot for stupid teenage stuff. We've tried to include him in our conversations, but he rarely has anything to say on the subjects we speak about. I think he's really jealous of our relationship, buit I can't say I think there's any sort of real answer here. We've tried to include him, but while we're downstairs watching TV together and arguing over politics or Boston Public, he's up in his room.
And then he thinks I'm a lousy brother because by the time night finally gets here, I'm edgy and grumpy and have found something else to be annoyed/angry about (a common occurance, I must admit.) Night is, if I can manage it, my cooldown period. I chill out, relax, play games or hang on Chaotic or whatever. Meanwhile, Josh gets home from work/practice/school and wants attention.
So let me reiterate... here I am, more often than not, grumpy over a hard day or something I felt someone's done to me, and here he is, looking for me to ask him how his day is, to be attentive etc.
I can SEE his point, but at the same time, he needs to see mine. I'm willing to work out some sort of compromise, but there are just going to be days I'm too busy or grumpy and he has to accept that. Period.
I'm not certain where this came from, but he needs to realize that, while not perfect, the family he's got now is certainly better than some of the alternative. We're not perfect, but we act pretty well as a family unit. Certainly better than we did with Marc around.
*sigh*
I dunno where he's getting his ideas from, but this is who we are and this is how we act as a family unit. It's not bad at all.
Actually, I'm frustrated over other matters. Talking to someone today who just...
I'm a cynic, but I feel like I understand people. People in general and people I know fairly well in specific. Hence, it amazes me sometimes when people are bloody STUPID. Example of bloody stupidity..
Sue is having a bad day, she's depressed and upset. So Mary takes that moment to pester her about something inconsequential right then and there instead of waiting a day.
Bloody stupid!
Listen, folks... you need to be aware of the people around you... yeah, yeah, I know.. Pot. Kettle. Black.. but, regardless, you need to look around you at the people you interact with. Before saying something ask yourself "How will this person ask if I say this? How would *I* feel if this was asked of me."
You would solve half the world's problems if you just THOUGHT a second.
Person A is sick, and hence, miserable. Person B is mad at something Person A did. If PErson B would WAIT until Person A was less miserable to confront him/her with whatever Person B is mad at, it would stop alot of arguing before it happened.
Just think a second, will ya?
Otherwise, you get called selfish, callous and unfeeling.
That's all I gotta say for now.
So I'll post this.
Hasta!
In just under a week, I'll be with
kareila, alierak, trillain, dawnstar, kolys, phinnia and tallin (assuming all goes well.) at the Galleria Mall, having lunch and having a good time. I'm really quite excited about it. All these people I haven't seen (and some favorite I have). More excited about the prospects of lunch with all these peoples then the actual concert (which I am looking forward to, but Indigo Girls isn't one of my favoite bands (not like the excitement I'd feel of going to see BnL or TMBG or Cake or something)Still, I'm excited. It'll be cool to meet peoples.
Had a big fight with my littlest brother last night. Still a little bothered about it. It started out over typical things.. accusations that I'm not holding up my end of the household chores, but he's not holding up his end of the household chores (of course, they're getting done anwyays, so chances are.. we both are, even if it's late at times.), but it evolved into how I don't treat him like a grown up (which I can't say I fully understand his arguments about.)
As I understand it, here is one of the underlying problems. I am 8 years older than Josh.. I have a, in general, better relationship with my mom. We bicker alot, but we get on pretty well. On the other hand, Josh doesn't really relate to my mom in the same ways and ends up getting yelled at alot for stupid teenage stuff. We've tried to include him in our conversations, but he rarely has anything to say on the subjects we speak about. I think he's really jealous of our relationship, buit I can't say I think there's any sort of real answer here. We've tried to include him, but while we're downstairs watching TV together and arguing over politics or Boston Public, he's up in his room.
And then he thinks I'm a lousy brother because by the time night finally gets here, I'm edgy and grumpy and have found something else to be annoyed/angry about (a common occurance, I must admit.) Night is, if I can manage it, my cooldown period. I chill out, relax, play games or hang on Chaotic or whatever. Meanwhile, Josh gets home from work/practice/school and wants attention.
So let me reiterate... here I am, more often than not, grumpy over a hard day or something I felt someone's done to me, and here he is, looking for me to ask him how his day is, to be attentive etc.
I can SEE his point, but at the same time, he needs to see mine. I'm willing to work out some sort of compromise, but there are just going to be days I'm too busy or grumpy and he has to accept that. Period.
I'm not certain where this came from, but he needs to realize that, while not perfect, the family he's got now is certainly better than some of the alternative. We're not perfect, but we act pretty well as a family unit. Certainly better than we did with Marc around.
*sigh*
I dunno where he's getting his ideas from, but this is who we are and this is how we act as a family unit. It's not bad at all.
Actually, I'm frustrated over other matters. Talking to someone today who just...
I'm a cynic, but I feel like I understand people. People in general and people I know fairly well in specific. Hence, it amazes me sometimes when people are bloody STUPID. Example of bloody stupidity..
Sue is having a bad day, she's depressed and upset. So Mary takes that moment to pester her about something inconsequential right then and there instead of waiting a day.
Bloody stupid!
Listen, folks... you need to be aware of the people around you... yeah, yeah, I know.. Pot. Kettle. Black.. but, regardless, you need to look around you at the people you interact with. Before saying something ask yourself "How will this person ask if I say this? How would *I* feel if this was asked of me."
You would solve half the world's problems if you just THOUGHT a second.
Person A is sick, and hence, miserable. Person B is mad at something Person A did. If PErson B would WAIT until Person A was less miserable to confront him/her with whatever Person B is mad at, it would stop alot of arguing before it happened.
Just think a second, will ya?
Otherwise, you get called selfish, callous and unfeeling.
That's all I gotta say for now.
So I'll post this.
Hasta!
