I do intend to try to update MySpace when I can. The only problem with MySpace is that I can't update it from work, whereas I CAN update/respond to LJ from work. But... I won't entirely disappear. Promise. :)
As far as.. it takes two to Tango. I agree.. it takes two to cause an incident, but.. I think it only takes one to bully/harass. I think... the trick is to understand the line between.. harassment/bullying and an incident. Harassment starts, for me, when one person gets online and says something nasty and personal about someone. An incident is when someone responds. Get two people.. or more.. and things get nasty. Allow the Bully to bully without any response.. and the bully just looks like an idiot.
But... i think the thing with NOT responding is it's hard and it's hard because at least until the new Block feature came about, it was.. active. You had to actively bite your tongue and NOT say anything and also you had to hope that people who care about you, or people sick of the Bully, don't say anything as well. And.. experience tells me.. it almost never goes that way, because some of us just don't react well to being bullied, and to having our friends be bullied.
That's why I'm here and not there. I'm sick of having to actively ignore a Bully. I'm sick of biting my tongue and holding my breath. The Bullies aren't here. At least not on my personal journal. And... it's a whole lot easier to defend myself here, because LJ has lived through enough flame wars, it knows how to stop these things. In fact, I've already stopped a Bully from posting here before she even knew about this place. I've banned her personal journal, know how to ban other journals, if necessary, and made it so all anonymous comments are screened (that is, *I* choose if they post or not.) :D
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Re: I'll still see you : )
Date: 2006-12-01 01:07 pm (UTC)But... I won't entirely disappear. Promise. :)
As far as.. it takes two to Tango.
I agree.. it takes two to cause an incident, but.. I think it only takes one to bully/harass.
I think... the trick is to understand the line between.. harassment/bullying and an incident. Harassment starts, for me, when one person gets online and says something nasty and personal about someone. An incident is when someone responds.
Get two people.. or more.. and things get nasty. Allow the Bully to bully without any response.. and the bully just looks like an idiot.
But... i think the thing with NOT responding is it's hard and it's hard because at least until the new Block feature came about, it was.. active. You had to actively bite your tongue and NOT say anything and also you had to hope that people who care about you, or people sick of the Bully, don't say anything as well.
And.. experience tells me.. it almost never goes that way, because some of us just don't react well to being bullied, and to having our friends be bullied.
That's why I'm here and not there. I'm sick of having to actively ignore a Bully. I'm sick of biting my tongue and holding my breath.
The Bullies aren't here. At least not on my personal journal. And... it's a whole lot easier to defend myself here, because LJ has lived through enough flame wars, it knows how to stop these things. In fact, I've already stopped a Bully from posting here before she even knew about this place. I've banned her personal journal, know how to ban other journals, if necessary, and made it so all anonymous comments are screened (that is, *I* choose if they post or not.)
:D