So... my mother calls me last night.

[hkellick]

My mom called me last night. Apparently, due to hospitilization, Josh is ending up the lead in the summer musical he's a part of, playing Tevye (possibly his dream part. He's always loved this musical.) The musical is semi-professional (as in he gets paid some). Mom would be willing to put plane tickets on the credit card so I could go down and see him.
Here's the problem... the musical is the last two weekends of the month (read: The Weekend of the Softball Finals/Carbon Leaf concert and the weekend of the TMBG concert.). Mom would lend me (and only me) money to come up for the weekend. I want to make this point clear.. lend as in I'd have to pay her back. Not lend as in I don't. So I'm still, in the end, the one paying the $150 or whatever for the ticket.
But I really don't want to. I don't want to establish the precedent where I run up to Buffalo every time somemy mom tells me too. I just LEFT that house and those conditions and I'd like to reach some actual level of freedom and independence. It's one thing if someone gets hospitalized or something serious happens, but I feel like running up every time Josh gets a good roll in a musical is going to mean blowing a lot of cash in plane tickets or such.
On the other hand, I'm sure Josh would really like me up there to see him. He may be more reasonable in terms of trying to get me a tape or something if I explain how difficult it would be to run up there at the drop of a hat, but I dunno.
On one hand I, personally, don't want to run up. On the same hand, I don't want to run up every time my mom tells me to. On the other, this is probably important to Joshua and while he may be understanding... I dunno.

So I'm looking for an unbiased opinion (Kristen is decidedly not unbiased. More on stuff going on there later, perhaps.) and am going to set a poll.

Do you think I should
[Poll #318447]

Thanks in advance

EDIT: After think about it, I've decided I'll go to Buffalo to see Josh perform. If the shoe was on the other foot, I'd want him to come see me. On the other hand, I plan to do whatever I can to make this MY weekend too, and would like a chance to meet up with a couple of my friends, perhaps for lunch.

Comments

[lite.livejournal.com]

By and large, I agree with you, but how many "big deals" will this boy have? I think, while part of me agrees with you.. as I've been to every single one of his productions (and some of them were REALLY bad), whether he was the lead or not, part of me just wants a break.
That's what I really want... a break from my family. I want to be able to live MY life, not theirs. And I feel like I haven't been given this chance with being home EVERY month and the constant clinginess and posessiveness from my mother.
It's really... irritating.

I'm thinking if I do go, I'm laying down some terms.
1) I am NOT coming back in August. Period.
2) I am going to meet one of my friends for a movie. You can have me for this, but I am not going to wander around the house with nothing better to do than run errands with you, watch whatever stupid movie or whatever.

Basically, if I go, i'm going on my terms, not hers.
This is assuming that you are right (and you probably are), that this is a big big deal for Josh.

[dustkitten.livejournal.com]

Well, that's the problem with acting..it's not like a 9 to 5 job, where you don't invite your family over every time you get a raise. :)

I definitely think there's nothing wrong with setting limits to your visit, and I think that if you don't end up going to see Josh, that you should think about your next visit being from the happy confines of a motel room...that's what Dear Abby tells people, and I heartily agree.

-A-