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hkellickThis test seems alot like that DiSC test I took a while back...
Red: 34/100 Blue: 8/100 White: 0/100 Yellow: 3/100
Take the Color Code Test
by Dano
Red: 34/100 Blue: 8/100 White: 0/100 Yellow: 3/100
My Primary Colour: Red
Reds have the most dominant, intimidating personality.
Expressing themselves emotionally is uncomfortable
and creates the vulnerability they typically avoid.
Reds Are Hungry for Power
Simply stated, Reds want their own way. If they have been raised in environments where they were able to manipulate their parents and siblings, they become difficult to manage as they get older. When they have gotten their way for too long, Reds find it almost impossible to relinquish their power and freedom when they meet authorities in society (teachers, bosses, police, clergy, military officers) who refuse to grant them the total control they demand.
Reds Want to Be Productive
Reds like to work --- in school, in their careers, and in their relationships. Just don't expect them to attach the same importance to things other people care about --- like other people's schooling, careers, and marriages. But give them a reason to produce and watch them take off. Reds like to get the job done. They are often workaholics. They will, however, resist being forced to do anything that doesn't interest them.
Reds Want to Look Good to Others
Reds need to appear knowledgeable. They crave approval from others for their intelligence and insight. They want to be respected even more than they want to be loved. They want to be admired for their logical, practical minds. When you deal with a Red, be precise and factual. Reds are unmoved by tears and other displays of "weakness."
Reds Shouldn't Be Taken Too Seriously
Reds are often just stating the facts as they see them, despite their antagonistic demeanor. They seldom say "in my opinion" before stating their opinions. I have seen too many Blues, Whites, and yellows become greatly concerned over issues raised by Reds, only to discover later that the Reds were simply interested in debating. Reds enjoy a good power play. But once you get emotionally involved arguing issues, you may be disappointed and frustrated to find that a Red is no longer interested.
Reds Seek Leadership Opportunities
Despite the rigidity of the military, many young Red men and women select it as a career in order to experience leadership. Reds are often called "control freaks." They like to be on the driver's seat. Red children are often frustrated in school because teachers (often Blue personalities) won't let them take charge. If a Red can get the upper hand, he or she will. Reds are willing to pay any price for an opportunity to lead.
Reds are so decisive.
If they make 51 percent of the decisions right
they're happy, because they know the other 49 percent
would have worked, but you screwed up.
RED STRENGTHS
AS AN INDIVIDUAL
Excels with logical thinking.
Committed to a productive lifestyle.
Dynamic and direct.
Thrives on independence.
Natural leader.
Highly resourceful (strong survivor.)
Creative in crises.
"For Reds, winning isn't everything,
it's the only thing."
AS A COMMUNICATOR
Operates in a very logical, sensible manner.
Direct and honest with opinions.
Communicates thoughts well verbally.
Directs the conversation in a productive, pragmatic way.
Tells others where they stand in a relationship.
AS A GOAL SETTER
Natural goal setter--sets goals comfortably and confidently.
Maintains strong sense of perspective (sees the whole picture.)
Highly disciplined.
Highly productive with follow-through.
Makes decisions quickly and easily.
Strong goal orientation (wants to move up the ladder.)
AS A CAREER PERSON
Thrives in leadership positions.
Comfortable with power (as long as he or she has it.)
Excellent organizer.
Delegates superbly
Quick to make decisions and handles responsibilities well.
Self-motivated.
Thrives on competition.
Dynamic and assertive.
Highly task-oriented and efficient.
Confident of ability to achieve.
Trusts own business instincts--difficult to discourage.
AS A PARENT
Excellent decision maker.
Unquestioned as leader in home.
Assumes responsibility for protecting family.
Excellent provider.
Quick with good advice and direction.
Promotes group cohesiveness or comfortable being alone.
Promotes children's activities.
AS A CHILD
Communicates what he or she is thinking.
Highly verbal.
Strong sense of independence.
Willing to risk and try new experiences.
Takes charge of situation when parents are gone.
Capable of bouncing back in negative environment.
Maintains the power to turn a poor situation around.
Believes in self--maintains high self-esteem.
AS A FRIEND
Direct and quick with suggestions.
Great in emergencies and disasters.
Promotes group activities.
Engages in conflict comfortably and directly.
Productive in solving dilemmas.
AS A COMMITTED COMPANION
Highly protective of companion
Loyal to the relationship.
Promotes interesting experiences.
Takes primary responsibility for financial needs.
Reliable and dependable.
Initiates interaction and activities.
RED LIMITATIONS
AS AN INDIVIDUAL
Generally seeks to serve self (what's in it for me?)
Promotes turmoil and conflict when a personal goal is to be gained.
Out of touch with own feelings.
Rationalizes and denies own failings.
Always right.
Cannot relax and feel comfortable unless producing something.
Often arrogant and defiant of authority.
Inconsiderate of other's feelings (selfish)
Won't admit inadequacies for fear of losing power and control.
AS A COMMUNICATOR
Unemotional and detached from feelings.
Insensitive and tactless.
Unappreciative of detail and beauty.
Bored with "idle chatter."
Little emotional perspective makes for poor insight to others.
Intuition is jaded by personal insecurities and judgments.
Harsh and judgmental.
Lacks ability to share self intimately.
Poor listener.
AS A GOAL SETTER
Impatient with self in completing goals.
Too rigid with expectations of his or her destiny.
Lives life on paper rather than with people.
Encourages quantity rather than quality.
Angers easily of goals aren't achieved or are blocked.
Blames others for personal misfortunes.
AS A CAREER PERSON
Seeks power in order to control others.
Refuses to relax--drives self and others.
Dislikes being told what to do.
May be insensitive to others in order to get ahead in business.
Makes decisions too quickly.
Doesn't often think the problem through or consult others for advice.
Less concerned with people than task completion.
Requires others' loyalty and obedience.
Authoritarian and uncompromising.
Critical of others and slow to give compliments.
Often too competitive to enjoy the competition.
AS A PARENT
Expects high performance without offering assistance.
Wants strict obedience.
Requires loyalty from family at all costs.
Unfeeling and insensitive to children's fears and concerns.
Requires the final say on important decisions.
Detached from children--doesn't share self emotionally.
Does not tolerate deviations from set expectations.
Establishes harsh and limiting boundaries.
Poor listener.
Impatient with play and other nonessential trivia.
Lacks insight into children's emotional needs.
Difficult to please--remains unimpressed.
Strong sense of right & wrong--badgers child when perceived as wrong.
AS A CHILD
Expends high energy manipulating parents to get own way.
Often defiant.
Resists control--feels he or she knows more than parents.
Critical of parents.
Fights constantly with siblings for control and power.
Subconsciously hides insecurities and emotional needs.
Aloof and distant from family.
Highly independent or requires others to entertain him or her.
Demanding--parents can never do enough right.
Finds it difficult to give sincere compliments.
Dramatic & overreactive to pain.
Expects to be catered to, especially when sick.
Poor listener.
AS A FRIEND
Insensitive and unemotional.
Doesn't like to admit the need for friendships.
Remains detached from sharing self completely.
Enters friendships asking, "What's in it for me?"
Listens only when convenient.
Maintains mostly rational friendships.
Tries to control group activities.
Expects friends to do things his or her way.
Impatient with others.
Negative, critical, and judgmental of others.
Feels it is more important to be right than agreeable.
Blunt or rude when angered.
Boring.
Expects to be entertained while waiting for action to begin.
Stubborn
Denies any personal inadequacies or responsibility.
AS A COMMITTED COMPANION
Primarily concerned with self-gratification.
Gives priority to work over personal relationships.
Demanding & arrogant.
Hides insecurities.
Critical of companion for imperfections.
Lacks sensitivity.
Often unaware of intimacy and rejects its priority in a relationship.
Poor listener.
CAREERS MOST LIKELY TO ATTRACT REDS
Administrator, Lawyer, Building Contractor, Police Officer, Medical Doctor, Sales, Military Officer, Tax Accountant, Marketing, Politician, Realtor, Clergy (Minister), Entrepreneur, Professional Critic, School Superintendent.
PERSONALITIES WHO APPEAR TO BE REDS
HILLARY CLINTON: Tenacious and confident in her own abilities, she publicly ignores the continued allegations of her husband's infedelities. Her motto seems to be, "Just get me to the White House, Bill, where I can do something meaningful, then we can talk."
THE REVEREND BILLY GRAHAM: When he first went to Russia to preach about God, someone reminded him that they were all Communists (and thus atheists) over there. To this, he stood proud and said, "Not when I'm done, they won't be," and confidently took them his message of Christianity.
MADONNA: What haven't we seen already? And yet she continues to self-promote with a passion that cannot be ignored.
RED NATIONS
China
Japan
Germany
How to Develop a Positive Connection with Reds
Do:
Present issues logically.
Demand their attention and respect.
Do your homework!
Be direct, brief, and specific in conversation.
Be productive and efficient.
Offer them leadership opportunities.
Verbalize your feelings.
Support their decisive nature.
Promote their intelligent reasoning where appropriate.
Be prepared with facts and figures.
Respect their need to make their own decisions their own way.
Don't:
Embarrass them in front of others.
Argue from an emotional perspective.
Always use authorative approach.
Use physical punishment (you don't know what you're getting into).
Be slow and indecisive.
Expect a personal and intimate relationship.
Attack them personally.
Take their arguments personally.
Wait for them to solicit your opinion.
Demand constant social interaction (allow for alone time.)
Recommended Time-Management Tips for Reds
Connect with others emotionally and socially. It motivates them to be more forthright and cooperative in helping you accomplish your agenda.
Praise and promote the positive in others, helping them focus on shared priorities. Negative or critical attitudes and behaviors can create fear, driving people to the crisis, reaction, or escape quadrants.
Relax. Rome wasn't built in a day. Being overly demanding of yourself and others doesn't breed confidence or quality.
Set goals for yourself that you can achieve with your strong discipline. Set different goals and accept different styles when dealing with groups.
Avoid blaming others for failing to meet commitments, which is often a natural reaction for Reds in a crisis.
Think your problems through and seek others' advice when organizing your life. Reds can make hasty decisions and ignore the needs or perceptions of others who are affected.
Realize that you can't do it all. Be open to suggestions. Brain-storming ideas and solutions with others will save you time and improve others' morale
Be careful about imposing your demands on others' time. You don't want them to feel invalidated in meeting their own agendas.
"Your gene pool could use a little chlorine."
My Secondary Colour: Blue
Life cannot bestow on anyone
a more gratifying reward
than the sincere appreciation
and trust of a Blue friend.
Blues Are Motivated by Altruism
Blues love to do nice things for others. They look for opportunities to give up something in order to bring another person happiness. Selflessness rather than selfishness is their guiding philosophy. Many Blues are uncomfortable doing things solely for themselves. They hold doors open for people, offer rides when someone's car breaks down, contribute to charities, even devote their entire lives to helping others.
Blues Seek Intimacy
More than anything else, Blues want to love and be loved. A true Blue will sacrifice a successful career to improve an important relationship. Once considered solely a female characteristic, this nurturing is more accurately understood as a Blue personality trait.
Blues Crave Being Understood
Blues are gratified when they are listened to, when they feel understood and appreciated. They are notorious for revealing their inadequacies, because they value being known and understood so much. In the eyes of a Blue, being vulnerable is a small price to pay for the chance to connect emotionally. Blues may have their hearts broken more than most people, but they also spend much more time in love.
Blues Need to Be Remembered and Appreciated
With Blues, a simple pat on the back will not suffice. Blues expend such great effort in making the world a better place that sometimes they need to be told how wonderful they are. They need to be thanked and specifically remembered for their good deeds. They need sincere gratitude. They delight in being remembered on birthdays and other special days, especially if the remembrance is personal--a homemade anniversary card, a welcome home party, a special day that isn't on the calendar. Blues need tender loving care.
Blues Are Directed by a Strong Moral Conscience
Blues are motivated to behave in a proper, appropriate manner. They have a moral code that guides them in their decision making, their value judgments, even their leisure time. Blues enjoy being "good." Of all the personality colors, Blues come equipped with the strongest sense of integrity. A Blue would rather lose than cheat. Blues are trustworthy. Ethically, Blues are the people who should be in positions of power, but seldom are.
Blues are the most controlling personality.
They are fiercely connected to the lives they live
and often appear to be emotionally unstoppable,
as though on a mission from God.
Blue Strengths
AS AN INDIVIDUAL
Sees life as a serious endeavor.
Appreciates beauty and detail.
Has a strong aesthetic sense.
Stable and dependable (plowhorse versus racehorse.)
Sincere and emotionally deep.
Analytically oriented (concerned with why one behaves as he/she does.)
High achiever
Deep sense of purpose.
AS A COMMUNICATOR
Able to enjoy sensitive and deep conversation.
Strong skills in empathizing with others.
Remembers feelings and thoughts shared in conversation.
Willing to give conversations time to run their course.
Prefers small groups.
AS A GOAL SETTER
Highly disciplined.
Receptive to other suggestions.
Strong goal orientation.
Plans well and follows through superbly.
AS A CAREER PERSON
Excellent behind-the-scenes worker.
Respectful of employer because of employer's position.
Enjoys detail and schedules.
Receptive of creating thinking in others.
Gives more of self than required or expected.
AS A PARENT
Encourages academics and/or trade development in children.
Excellent trainer of skills (e.g., manners, study habits.)
Very observant.
Empathic & sensitive.
Sincerely loyal to children.
Excellent in long-term commitments.
Keeps home clean & cozy.
Sincerely seeks to understand children's behavior.
Self-sacrificing.
AS A CHILD
Proper & behaved.
Easily disciplined verbally.
Concerned about being a good family member.
Sensitive & concerned about other family members.
Loyal to parents and siblings regardless of quality of relationship.
Seeks learning opportunities.
AS A FRIEND
Loyal forever once friendship is established.
Genuine concern for other person's well-being.
Remembers special holidays and promotes celebrations.
Encouraging in times of trouble.
Willing to commit time to the relationship.
AS A COMMITTED COMPANION
Gives the relationship priority over other activities.
Values intimacy and places high priority on it.
Considers spouse first in decision making.
Responsible for making ongoing contribution to relationship.
Enjoys sharing intimacy and places high priority on it.
Blue Limitations
AS AN INDIVIDUAL
Highly emotional.
Smug & self-righteous.
Controlling and/or envious of others' success when too easily obtained.
Strong perfecting and performance orientation.
Verbally self-abusive.
AS A COMMUNICATOR
Has intensely held opinions on many issues.
Tends to lecture and overdiscuss issues.
Rigid with principles and unwilling to negotiate.
Fears risking self in conversation.
Argues primarily from emotional perspective.
Strong expectations for others to be sensitive & deep.
Expects others to read his or her mind & know his or her feelings.
AS A GOAL SETTER
Sets unrealistically high goals.
Easily discouraged when unsuccessful in accomplishments..
Easily frustrated by lack of team cooperation.
Expects others to understand his or her goals and make them a priority.
AS A CAREER PERSON
Feels others are not capable of doing things as well as he or she.
Craves security in career.
Feels inadequate with natural talents and creativity.
Shies away from public exposure and performance.
Establishes high and often unrealistic expectations for self and others.
Tends to overplan and overprepare.
Critical of others' work and of self.
Overextends self.
AS A PARENT
Blames children for being unappreciative of parenting efforts.
Can be moody and unpredictable.
Easily irritated by mistakes and shortcomings of others.
Usually loves with strings attached.
Tends to give heavy doses of guilt to children.
Lacks ability to relax.
Requires a purpose in order to play.
Controlling and overprotective of children.
Too precise and exact with expectations.
Feels a clean home is a high priority.
Accepts guilt feelings too easily and readily.
Not spontaneous with activities.
Frustrates children with unrealistic expectations.
Strong sense of right and wrong--badgers children if convinced they may be wrong.
AS A CHILD
Easily frustrated.
Feels guilty over minor concerns.
Moody and emotional (cries instead of facing issues rationally).
Feelings are easily hurt.
Martyr-like and complains about life.
Self-esteem is dependent on outside influences.
Has difficulty relaxing and often feels uncomfortable.
Withholds affection if angered (pouts).
Waits for parent to initiate ideas an then criticizes unacceptable suggestions.
AS A FRIEND
Highly insecure about other's acceptance and approval.
Feels rejected easily.
When depressed or depressive, feels it is friend's job to understand.
Can be revengeful and bitter if crossed or scarred emotionally.
Critical of friends' principles or activities if not similar.
Expects friends to maintain strong loyalty.
Wishes friends would communicate more often.
Rarely playful and spontaneous.
AS A COMMITTED COMPANION
Blames others for his or her unhappiness (if only you were more...").
Demands affection and intimacy.
Demands time and attention of partner.
Highly manipulative in seeking support or understanding.
Suspicious of others' motives (distrustful).
Unforgiving of past misunderstandings and wrongdoings.
Clings to companion too much.
Withholds feelings when frightened he or she may be rejected.
CAREERS MOST LIKELY TO ATTRACT BLUES
Teacher, Banker, Nurse, Homemaker, Clergy/Minister, Engineer, Psychotherapist, Accountant, Librarian, Computer Programmer, Politician, Journalist, Musician, Architect, Carpenter.
PERSONALITIES WHO APPEAR TO BE BLUES
ABRAHAM LINCOLN: Renowned for his trademark of fairness, he always sought the most noble path that would benefit all parties, if possible. He sought truth as a guiding principle in his personal and professional relationships.
PRINCESS DIANA: Always dresses appropriately, she carried herself with dignity and class. Emotions ruled her life, and she rendered herself vulnerable to the general public, continually gaining sympathy and support for herself and her causes.
WALT DISNEY: A creative genius, he loved the process more than the bottom line and relished design and details.
BLUE NATIONS
United States
England
Denmark
How to Develop a Positive Connection with Blues
Do:
Emphasize their security in the relationship.
Be sensitive and soft-spoken in your approach.
Be sincere and genuine.
Behave appropriately and well mannered.
Limit their risk level.
Promote their creativity.
Appreciate them.
Allow ample time for them to gather their thoughts before expressing themselves.
Be loyal.
Do thorough analysis before making presentations.
Don't:
Make them feel guilty.
Be rude or abrupt.
Promote too much change.
Expect spontaneity.
Abandon them.
Expect them to bounce back easily or quickly from depression.
Demand perfection (they already expect too much from themselves.)
Push them too quickly into making decisions.
Expect them to forgive quickly when crossed.
Demand immediate action or quick verbal bantering.
Recommended Time-Management Tips for Blues
Thinks rationally rather than reactively when pressured. Emotionalism can create chaos and unnecessary distress.
Clearly state your limits when others impose deadlines on you.
Settle for less. Perfectionism often narrows your focus, causing you to ignore other important aspects of your life.
Don't set unrealistic expectations for yourself or others to the extent that everyone feels overwhelmed. Simply see goals as road markers rather than criteria for success.
Don't personalize your interactions with other people. Blues often suffer from feeling let down by others or from quitting because they let others down. Concentrate on the task at hand rather than becoming emotionally discouraged or critical.
See time management as a compromise rather than "all or nothing." If you fail to meet a deadline, learn to punt. It will free you to be more creative and less self-critical.
Realize that there are limits to what you can control. You cannot control other people.
Set a ten-minute time limit to worry about any topic in the day. When your time is up, so is your worrying. Get on with living in the present moment and doing what you can do rather than focusing on what is our of your control.
"If you love someone, set them free.
If they come back, they're yours;
if not, hunt them down and kill them!"
Red: 34/100 Blue: 8/100 White: 0/100 Yellow: 3/100
Take the Color Code Test
by Dano
My Primary Colour: Red
Reds have the most dominant, intimidating personality.
Expressing themselves emotionally is uncomfortable
and creates the vulnerability they typically avoid.
Reds Are Hungry for Power
Simply stated, Reds want their own way. If they have been raised in environments where they were able to manipulate their parents and siblings, they become difficult to manage as they get older. When they have gotten their way for too long, Reds find it almost impossible to relinquish their power and freedom when they meet authorities in society (teachers, bosses, police, clergy, military officers) who refuse to grant them the total control they demand.
Reds Want to Be Productive
Reds like to work --- in school, in their careers, and in their relationships. Just don't expect them to attach the same importance to things other people care about --- like other people's schooling, careers, and marriages. But give them a reason to produce and watch them take off. Reds like to get the job done. They are often workaholics. They will, however, resist being forced to do anything that doesn't interest them.
Reds Want to Look Good to Others
Reds need to appear knowledgeable. They crave approval from others for their intelligence and insight. They want to be respected even more than they want to be loved. They want to be admired for their logical, practical minds. When you deal with a Red, be precise and factual. Reds are unmoved by tears and other displays of "weakness."
Reds Shouldn't Be Taken Too Seriously
Reds are often just stating the facts as they see them, despite their antagonistic demeanor. They seldom say "in my opinion" before stating their opinions. I have seen too many Blues, Whites, and yellows become greatly concerned over issues raised by Reds, only to discover later that the Reds were simply interested in debating. Reds enjoy a good power play. But once you get emotionally involved arguing issues, you may be disappointed and frustrated to find that a Red is no longer interested.
Reds Seek Leadership Opportunities
Despite the rigidity of the military, many young Red men and women select it as a career in order to experience leadership. Reds are often called "control freaks." They like to be on the driver's seat. Red children are often frustrated in school because teachers (often Blue personalities) won't let them take charge. If a Red can get the upper hand, he or she will. Reds are willing to pay any price for an opportunity to lead.
Reds are so decisive.
If they make 51 percent of the decisions right
they're happy, because they know the other 49 percent
would have worked, but you screwed up.
RED STRENGTHS
AS AN INDIVIDUAL
Excels with logical thinking.
Committed to a productive lifestyle.
Dynamic and direct.
Thrives on independence.
Natural leader.
Highly resourceful (strong survivor.)
Creative in crises.
"For Reds, winning isn't everything,
it's the only thing."
AS A COMMUNICATOR
Operates in a very logical, sensible manner.
Direct and honest with opinions.
Communicates thoughts well verbally.
Directs the conversation in a productive, pragmatic way.
Tells others where they stand in a relationship.
AS A GOAL SETTER
Natural goal setter--sets goals comfortably and confidently.
Maintains strong sense of perspective (sees the whole picture.)
Highly disciplined.
Highly productive with follow-through.
Makes decisions quickly and easily.
Strong goal orientation (wants to move up the ladder.)
AS A CAREER PERSON
Thrives in leadership positions.
Comfortable with power (as long as he or she has it.)
Excellent organizer.
Delegates superbly
Quick to make decisions and handles responsibilities well.
Self-motivated.
Thrives on competition.
Dynamic and assertive.
Highly task-oriented and efficient.
Confident of ability to achieve.
Trusts own business instincts--difficult to discourage.
AS A PARENT
Excellent decision maker.
Unquestioned as leader in home.
Assumes responsibility for protecting family.
Excellent provider.
Quick with good advice and direction.
Promotes group cohesiveness or comfortable being alone.
Promotes children's activities.
AS A CHILD
Communicates what he or she is thinking.
Highly verbal.
Strong sense of independence.
Willing to risk and try new experiences.
Takes charge of situation when parents are gone.
Capable of bouncing back in negative environment.
Maintains the power to turn a poor situation around.
Believes in self--maintains high self-esteem.
AS A FRIEND
Direct and quick with suggestions.
Great in emergencies and disasters.
Promotes group activities.
Engages in conflict comfortably and directly.
Productive in solving dilemmas.
AS A COMMITTED COMPANION
Highly protective of companion
Loyal to the relationship.
Promotes interesting experiences.
Takes primary responsibility for financial needs.
Reliable and dependable.
Initiates interaction and activities.
RED LIMITATIONS
AS AN INDIVIDUAL
Generally seeks to serve self (what's in it for me?)
Promotes turmoil and conflict when a personal goal is to be gained.
Out of touch with own feelings.
Rationalizes and denies own failings.
Always right.
Cannot relax and feel comfortable unless producing something.
Often arrogant and defiant of authority.
Inconsiderate of other's feelings (selfish)
Won't admit inadequacies for fear of losing power and control.
AS A COMMUNICATOR
Unemotional and detached from feelings.
Insensitive and tactless.
Unappreciative of detail and beauty.
Bored with "idle chatter."
Little emotional perspective makes for poor insight to others.
Intuition is jaded by personal insecurities and judgments.
Harsh and judgmental.
Lacks ability to share self intimately.
Poor listener.
AS A GOAL SETTER
Impatient with self in completing goals.
Too rigid with expectations of his or her destiny.
Lives life on paper rather than with people.
Encourages quantity rather than quality.
Angers easily of goals aren't achieved or are blocked.
Blames others for personal misfortunes.
AS A CAREER PERSON
Seeks power in order to control others.
Refuses to relax--drives self and others.
Dislikes being told what to do.
May be insensitive to others in order to get ahead in business.
Makes decisions too quickly.
Doesn't often think the problem through or consult others for advice.
Less concerned with people than task completion.
Requires others' loyalty and obedience.
Authoritarian and uncompromising.
Critical of others and slow to give compliments.
Often too competitive to enjoy the competition.
AS A PARENT
Expects high performance without offering assistance.
Wants strict obedience.
Requires loyalty from family at all costs.
Unfeeling and insensitive to children's fears and concerns.
Requires the final say on important decisions.
Detached from children--doesn't share self emotionally.
Does not tolerate deviations from set expectations.
Establishes harsh and limiting boundaries.
Poor listener.
Impatient with play and other nonessential trivia.
Lacks insight into children's emotional needs.
Difficult to please--remains unimpressed.
Strong sense of right & wrong--badgers child when perceived as wrong.
AS A CHILD
Expends high energy manipulating parents to get own way.
Often defiant.
Resists control--feels he or she knows more than parents.
Critical of parents.
Fights constantly with siblings for control and power.
Subconsciously hides insecurities and emotional needs.
Aloof and distant from family.
Highly independent or requires others to entertain him or her.
Demanding--parents can never do enough right.
Finds it difficult to give sincere compliments.
Dramatic & overreactive to pain.
Expects to be catered to, especially when sick.
Poor listener.
AS A FRIEND
Insensitive and unemotional.
Doesn't like to admit the need for friendships.
Remains detached from sharing self completely.
Enters friendships asking, "What's in it for me?"
Listens only when convenient.
Maintains mostly rational friendships.
Tries to control group activities.
Expects friends to do things his or her way.
Impatient with others.
Negative, critical, and judgmental of others.
Feels it is more important to be right than agreeable.
Blunt or rude when angered.
Boring.
Expects to be entertained while waiting for action to begin.
Stubborn
Denies any personal inadequacies or responsibility.
AS A COMMITTED COMPANION
Primarily concerned with self-gratification.
Gives priority to work over personal relationships.
Demanding & arrogant.
Hides insecurities.
Critical of companion for imperfections.
Lacks sensitivity.
Often unaware of intimacy and rejects its priority in a relationship.
Poor listener.
CAREERS MOST LIKELY TO ATTRACT REDS
Administrator, Lawyer, Building Contractor, Police Officer, Medical Doctor, Sales, Military Officer, Tax Accountant, Marketing, Politician, Realtor, Clergy (Minister), Entrepreneur, Professional Critic, School Superintendent.
PERSONALITIES WHO APPEAR TO BE REDS
HILLARY CLINTON: Tenacious and confident in her own abilities, she publicly ignores the continued allegations of her husband's infedelities. Her motto seems to be, "Just get me to the White House, Bill, where I can do something meaningful, then we can talk."
THE REVEREND BILLY GRAHAM: When he first went to Russia to preach about God, someone reminded him that they were all Communists (and thus atheists) over there. To this, he stood proud and said, "Not when I'm done, they won't be," and confidently took them his message of Christianity.
MADONNA: What haven't we seen already? And yet she continues to self-promote with a passion that cannot be ignored.
RED NATIONS
China
Japan
Germany
How to Develop a Positive Connection with Reds
Do:
Present issues logically.
Demand their attention and respect.
Do your homework!
Be direct, brief, and specific in conversation.
Be productive and efficient.
Offer them leadership opportunities.
Verbalize your feelings.
Support their decisive nature.
Promote their intelligent reasoning where appropriate.
Be prepared with facts and figures.
Respect their need to make their own decisions their own way.
Don't:
Embarrass them in front of others.
Argue from an emotional perspective.
Always use authorative approach.
Use physical punishment (you don't know what you're getting into).
Be slow and indecisive.
Expect a personal and intimate relationship.
Attack them personally.
Take their arguments personally.
Wait for them to solicit your opinion.
Demand constant social interaction (allow for alone time.)
Recommended Time-Management Tips for Reds
Connect with others emotionally and socially. It motivates them to be more forthright and cooperative in helping you accomplish your agenda.
Praise and promote the positive in others, helping them focus on shared priorities. Negative or critical attitudes and behaviors can create fear, driving people to the crisis, reaction, or escape quadrants.
Relax. Rome wasn't built in a day. Being overly demanding of yourself and others doesn't breed confidence or quality.
Set goals for yourself that you can achieve with your strong discipline. Set different goals and accept different styles when dealing with groups.
Avoid blaming others for failing to meet commitments, which is often a natural reaction for Reds in a crisis.
Think your problems through and seek others' advice when organizing your life. Reds can make hasty decisions and ignore the needs or perceptions of others who are affected.
Realize that you can't do it all. Be open to suggestions. Brain-storming ideas and solutions with others will save you time and improve others' morale
Be careful about imposing your demands on others' time. You don't want them to feel invalidated in meeting their own agendas.
"Your gene pool could use a little chlorine."
My Secondary Colour: Blue
Life cannot bestow on anyone
a more gratifying reward
than the sincere appreciation
and trust of a Blue friend.
Blues Are Motivated by Altruism
Blues love to do nice things for others. They look for opportunities to give up something in order to bring another person happiness. Selflessness rather than selfishness is their guiding philosophy. Many Blues are uncomfortable doing things solely for themselves. They hold doors open for people, offer rides when someone's car breaks down, contribute to charities, even devote their entire lives to helping others.
Blues Seek Intimacy
More than anything else, Blues want to love and be loved. A true Blue will sacrifice a successful career to improve an important relationship. Once considered solely a female characteristic, this nurturing is more accurately understood as a Blue personality trait.
Blues Crave Being Understood
Blues are gratified when they are listened to, when they feel understood and appreciated. They are notorious for revealing their inadequacies, because they value being known and understood so much. In the eyes of a Blue, being vulnerable is a small price to pay for the chance to connect emotionally. Blues may have their hearts broken more than most people, but they also spend much more time in love.
Blues Need to Be Remembered and Appreciated
With Blues, a simple pat on the back will not suffice. Blues expend such great effort in making the world a better place that sometimes they need to be told how wonderful they are. They need to be thanked and specifically remembered for their good deeds. They need sincere gratitude. They delight in being remembered on birthdays and other special days, especially if the remembrance is personal--a homemade anniversary card, a welcome home party, a special day that isn't on the calendar. Blues need tender loving care.
Blues Are Directed by a Strong Moral Conscience
Blues are motivated to behave in a proper, appropriate manner. They have a moral code that guides them in their decision making, their value judgments, even their leisure time. Blues enjoy being "good." Of all the personality colors, Blues come equipped with the strongest sense of integrity. A Blue would rather lose than cheat. Blues are trustworthy. Ethically, Blues are the people who should be in positions of power, but seldom are.
Blues are the most controlling personality.
They are fiercely connected to the lives they live
and often appear to be emotionally unstoppable,
as though on a mission from God.
Blue Strengths
AS AN INDIVIDUAL
Sees life as a serious endeavor.
Appreciates beauty and detail.
Has a strong aesthetic sense.
Stable and dependable (plowhorse versus racehorse.)
Sincere and emotionally deep.
Analytically oriented (concerned with why one behaves as he/she does.)
High achiever
Deep sense of purpose.
AS A COMMUNICATOR
Able to enjoy sensitive and deep conversation.
Strong skills in empathizing with others.
Remembers feelings and thoughts shared in conversation.
Willing to give conversations time to run their course.
Prefers small groups.
AS A GOAL SETTER
Highly disciplined.
Receptive to other suggestions.
Strong goal orientation.
Plans well and follows through superbly.
AS A CAREER PERSON
Excellent behind-the-scenes worker.
Respectful of employer because of employer's position.
Enjoys detail and schedules.
Receptive of creating thinking in others.
Gives more of self than required or expected.
AS A PARENT
Encourages academics and/or trade development in children.
Excellent trainer of skills (e.g., manners, study habits.)
Very observant.
Empathic & sensitive.
Sincerely loyal to children.
Excellent in long-term commitments.
Keeps home clean & cozy.
Sincerely seeks to understand children's behavior.
Self-sacrificing.
AS A CHILD
Proper & behaved.
Easily disciplined verbally.
Concerned about being a good family member.
Sensitive & concerned about other family members.
Loyal to parents and siblings regardless of quality of relationship.
Seeks learning opportunities.
AS A FRIEND
Loyal forever once friendship is established.
Genuine concern for other person's well-being.
Remembers special holidays and promotes celebrations.
Encouraging in times of trouble.
Willing to commit time to the relationship.
AS A COMMITTED COMPANION
Gives the relationship priority over other activities.
Values intimacy and places high priority on it.
Considers spouse first in decision making.
Responsible for making ongoing contribution to relationship.
Enjoys sharing intimacy and places high priority on it.
Blue Limitations
AS AN INDIVIDUAL
Highly emotional.
Smug & self-righteous.
Controlling and/or envious of others' success when too easily obtained.
Strong perfecting and performance orientation.
Verbally self-abusive.
AS A COMMUNICATOR
Has intensely held opinions on many issues.
Tends to lecture and overdiscuss issues.
Rigid with principles and unwilling to negotiate.
Fears risking self in conversation.
Argues primarily from emotional perspective.
Strong expectations for others to be sensitive & deep.
Expects others to read his or her mind & know his or her feelings.
AS A GOAL SETTER
Sets unrealistically high goals.
Easily discouraged when unsuccessful in accomplishments..
Easily frustrated by lack of team cooperation.
Expects others to understand his or her goals and make them a priority.
AS A CAREER PERSON
Feels others are not capable of doing things as well as he or she.
Craves security in career.
Feels inadequate with natural talents and creativity.
Shies away from public exposure and performance.
Establishes high and often unrealistic expectations for self and others.
Tends to overplan and overprepare.
Critical of others' work and of self.
Overextends self.
AS A PARENT
Blames children for being unappreciative of parenting efforts.
Can be moody and unpredictable.
Easily irritated by mistakes and shortcomings of others.
Usually loves with strings attached.
Tends to give heavy doses of guilt to children.
Lacks ability to relax.
Requires a purpose in order to play.
Controlling and overprotective of children.
Too precise and exact with expectations.
Feels a clean home is a high priority.
Accepts guilt feelings too easily and readily.
Not spontaneous with activities.
Frustrates children with unrealistic expectations.
Strong sense of right and wrong--badgers children if convinced they may be wrong.
AS A CHILD
Easily frustrated.
Feels guilty over minor concerns.
Moody and emotional (cries instead of facing issues rationally).
Feelings are easily hurt.
Martyr-like and complains about life.
Self-esteem is dependent on outside influences.
Has difficulty relaxing and often feels uncomfortable.
Withholds affection if angered (pouts).
Waits for parent to initiate ideas an then criticizes unacceptable suggestions.
AS A FRIEND
Highly insecure about other's acceptance and approval.
Feels rejected easily.
When depressed or depressive, feels it is friend's job to understand.
Can be revengeful and bitter if crossed or scarred emotionally.
Critical of friends' principles or activities if not similar.
Expects friends to maintain strong loyalty.
Wishes friends would communicate more often.
Rarely playful and spontaneous.
AS A COMMITTED COMPANION
Blames others for his or her unhappiness (if only you were more...").
Demands affection and intimacy.
Demands time and attention of partner.
Highly manipulative in seeking support or understanding.
Suspicious of others' motives (distrustful).
Unforgiving of past misunderstandings and wrongdoings.
Clings to companion too much.
Withholds feelings when frightened he or she may be rejected.
CAREERS MOST LIKELY TO ATTRACT BLUES
Teacher, Banker, Nurse, Homemaker, Clergy/Minister, Engineer, Psychotherapist, Accountant, Librarian, Computer Programmer, Politician, Journalist, Musician, Architect, Carpenter.
PERSONALITIES WHO APPEAR TO BE BLUES
ABRAHAM LINCOLN: Renowned for his trademark of fairness, he always sought the most noble path that would benefit all parties, if possible. He sought truth as a guiding principle in his personal and professional relationships.
PRINCESS DIANA: Always dresses appropriately, she carried herself with dignity and class. Emotions ruled her life, and she rendered herself vulnerable to the general public, continually gaining sympathy and support for herself and her causes.
WALT DISNEY: A creative genius, he loved the process more than the bottom line and relished design and details.
BLUE NATIONS
United States
England
Denmark
How to Develop a Positive Connection with Blues
Do:
Emphasize their security in the relationship.
Be sensitive and soft-spoken in your approach.
Be sincere and genuine.
Behave appropriately and well mannered.
Limit their risk level.
Promote their creativity.
Appreciate them.
Allow ample time for them to gather their thoughts before expressing themselves.
Be loyal.
Do thorough analysis before making presentations.
Don't:
Make them feel guilty.
Be rude or abrupt.
Promote too much change.
Expect spontaneity.
Abandon them.
Expect them to bounce back easily or quickly from depression.
Demand perfection (they already expect too much from themselves.)
Push them too quickly into making decisions.
Expect them to forgive quickly when crossed.
Demand immediate action or quick verbal bantering.
Recommended Time-Management Tips for Blues
Thinks rationally rather than reactively when pressured. Emotionalism can create chaos and unnecessary distress.
Clearly state your limits when others impose deadlines on you.
Settle for less. Perfectionism often narrows your focus, causing you to ignore other important aspects of your life.
Don't set unrealistic expectations for yourself or others to the extent that everyone feels overwhelmed. Simply see goals as road markers rather than criteria for success.
Don't personalize your interactions with other people. Blues often suffer from feeling let down by others or from quitting because they let others down. Concentrate on the task at hand rather than becoming emotionally discouraged or critical.
See time management as a compromise rather than "all or nothing." If you fail to meet a deadline, learn to punt. It will free you to be more creative and less self-critical.
Realize that there are limits to what you can control. You cannot control other people.
Set a ten-minute time limit to worry about any topic in the day. When your time is up, so is your worrying. Get on with living in the present moment and doing what you can do rather than focusing on what is our of your control.
"If you love someone, set them free.
If they come back, they're yours;
if not, hunt them down and kill them!"
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Date: 2002-06-04 01:03 pm (UTC)