hkellick | A H&K Update

All I have to say is.. Wow. What a difference a good weekend can make. :)

Let me back up slightly.

When I last talked about K & I, we had broken up and realized that we were both too important to each other to give up on each other. We agreed to give counseling another try, but I think, deep inside, both of us were pretty hurt about what the weekend had brought. I still had all the reasons I had why K and I wouldn't work and she had proof that I could abandon the relationship.
Counseling wasn't bad, but we didn't actually talk about us. We talked about me and my job.
My job is important to discuss. It's a definite stressor in my life and a stressor for me generally tends to become a stressor for the two of us combined.
But we never talked about us.

We had decided, on our own, was that, for a number of reasons, it made sense to try and simulate living together again... one day in her apartment, one day in mind. To slowly transition from living indepednently and seeing each other when we have a chance to.. actually truly living with each other again.
The plan was.. to transition slowly. We decided we wanted to cook together, because it's easier and we can do more GOOD meals (compared to what we did, on our own.. quick and easy.. mac and cheese, helpers, maybe grilled chicken.. nothing too fancy or time consuming for obvious reasons).. and do dishes together afterwards because both of us are very bad at leaving things in the sink and then watching them build up to "Oh god, too many dishes to handle" mode.
And we'd sleep together five days a week (five because we figured we'd need time off from each other.)

Well, after two nights off (Wednesday and Thursday) - we decided we'd abandon five days and switch over to sleeping with each other seven nights a week, but with the caveat that we wouldn't necessarily spend every DAY together - just every night (So, for example, I'm taking this upcoming Wednesday night off to do laundry and play Sims 2 University. She'll just do whatever. then i'll go to her house about 9:00 to sleep. This works for both of us :) )

So there's that aspect. There's also the fact that both of us took the advice suggested in "Five Languages of Love" to heart. I made a point of touching Kristen as often as possible and she made it a point to actually try to spend quality time with me. We both agreed we wanted to try to start doing some hobbies together - Puzzles was one good hobby, especially during a miserable weekend like this one. So we bought a couple of puzzles. Also we decided when the weather was better, we'd start hiking or biking. We figure.. between an ocean, various rivers, the mountains and however many national parks are around, there HAVE to be some nice places. We searched online Sunday and found a few good choices :)
(Hey, K. Perhaps we could invite

verticalface along with us for some of these too. I can see her getting a kick out of it as well. Also, she may know a few places we didn't get on the website :) )

And then there was the fact that both of us felt we needed to make a point of being as open and honest as possible to each other. Not that we've ever purposely lied, but that things get lost in translation due to what we never actually said.

So, with all these things going at once, we decided we absolutely needed to have a good weekend.

The weekend wasn't good. It was fuckin' awesome.
We didn't do much, but we did it so well. :) Lots of talking, lots of snuggling, very relaxing. Just... good. :)

Like Kristen said.. last night?.. it finally feels like we actually have a future together again.
I am so in love with this woman. :)

I'll stop gushing, but I did want to mention some of what was going on.

Oh! and Kristen finally got her Flylady calendar, so we're going to be smarter and better about planning things and actually getting them done! :D (that was the whole plan... to use the Flylady Calendar as a focal point to plan our lives around... moving, any sort of vacations, dates.. all of it.

I love you so much, Dorkus! :)
(Even though you suck cause you might be leaving work early! For snow that's hardly sticking!)